Mind Blowing Ideas to Overcome Failure and Achieve Success

Here, I am going to give you some mind blowing ideas to overcome failure and achieve success. I have covered the topic of failure completely. Like what is true meaning of failure; how to overcome failure; what to do after failure; and 8 benefits of failure. So let’s get started:

What is Failure?

What is mean by failure? There are two different deification, one is according by society; that most people think. And second definition is according by expert motivational speakers, which I learnt from them.

(1)According by Society or you?

In our society, there are many definition of failure. For example, if the person is poor, he has no big house, and he has no car; that means he is failure. 

Also, if I talk about you, you would say failure in following situation. For example,

If you want to achieve to get something, but you didn’t succeed to get that thing, you will think, you are failure. 

I have seen another bad concept in society. Society measure the ability or intelligence with school grade and degrees. If one student don’t get a good score in school/college, or if he don’t have a high degree, that means, he has no ability or intelligence. 

It’s a same as, people want to judge fish’s intelligence and say to fish “climb the tree, if you did that, it means, you have ability/intelligence to be successful.” 

So society are measuring your ability in wrong way. 

Remember everybody, if you do not have good score or if you don’t have a college degree, that doesn’t mean, you don’t have ability; it doesn’t mean you are not going to be successful. 

It’s possible, you are good at the painting, and you can become a very successful artist without any degree. And your parent or people don’t know that, and they want you to get the college degree. Because they are measuring your intelligence in the wrong way. 

So never judge the ability and intelligence according to the college grade or degree. 

Remember another thing, if culture change, parameter of failure change of society. And failure is comparative sometimes.

For example, if you are millionaire and sitting in billionaires, you are failure. But if you are millionaire but you are sitting in poor peoples, then you are successful. See your income is same, but in different society, you have a different status. 

(2)True meaning by experts:

Let’s see what expert motivational speaker say about failure. 

Failure has two parts. First one is, person is failure who didn’t discover himself; who didn’t discover his passion; who didn’t know why he came in this world; who didn’t know who he is. 

So ask your question, “who I am”

If you be able to discover yourself, and you be able to answer above your question, you are not failure in first part.

It’s time talk about second part of failure. Second is, person is still failure, if didn’t used his potential. He knew his passion, but he didn’t follow his passion. 

So your first job is to discover yourself, and then use your potential and do work according to you passion. Then, we can say you are successful and you are not failure. 

Remember that, every work that feels like burden for you, it means it’s not your passion; and it never give you bigger result. So you should do work what you were born to do. If you don’t do that, every work become a burden for you. 

Success occurs when right person doing right work in right way.

Passion should be equal to profession. 

Another thing, you never should compare yourself to other person. Never say he is better than I or he is more successful than me. You should compare yourself with you; you had to beat yourself. If your today is better than yesterday, that means, you are growing. 

So we can say if someone is not progressive; he is failure. 

 (3) What is Success?

Success is the name of your satisfaction. If you all world say that you are your failure, but you are satisfied; you say that you are successful, that means, you are successful. 

You can read more about what is true meaning of the success in this article. 

How to overcome failure

Let’s see couple of tips to overcome failure. 

(1)Understand it is okay:

When we want something, and we fail to achieve that; we depress. We think, why it happened with you; all other people are lucky and they are getting success easily; you are unlucky person. So you are blaming on your fate. 

Another interesting thing, I have noticed.

I have heard a lot of people saying “I have tried a lot for getting job or achieve something, but I failed.”

Actually they are calling their 2 or 3 times of trying to a lot of trying. They just do 2 times try and think, they have tried many times; they did very hard work to achieve that. 

If you talk about successful people, then you need to understand that they were also like you long time ago; they also failed a lot. But they didn’t quit. 

Edison make a bulb after 999 failures.

So if you fail; understand it is okay and normal thing. For getting success, failure is necessary. 

(2) Understand failure leads you success:

Remember that, only failure leads you success. If someone didn’t fail, that means, he’s not going to be successful. 

If you are avoiding to failure, actually you are avoiding to success.

How bigger success you will get, it depends on how many times you failed. 

Michael Angelo was able to draw someone’s portrait in couple of minutes. Someone ask him how he do that.

He replied, “I have been seeing failure of 30 years. I did hard work in past 30 years, than I was be able to do that.”

One success have full history of pain behind the success. 

(3) Understand this world is not ideal:

You need to understand, this world is not ideal. Everybody face a lot of problems and failures. But point is that, how they react and how they deal with failures. If you are thinking about that everything should be according to you, so understand that it’s impossible.

But by changing your thinking, you can make your world ideal for you even having a lot of problems. You can see all problems and failure as an adventure. 

You need to know, your all days are not equal. Some day is bad and some day is good. If your today is bad, that means, your good day is coming soon. But if your today is good, it indicates, your bad day is upcoming. 

So admit this fact, there are bad and good both happening in your life. 

(4)Understand depression is not a solution:

Think about that, will restless mind give you right direction to achieve your goal or will peaceful mind guide you to solve problems and deal with failure?

Of course, peaceful mind give you right direction. So don’t be depress when you have failure. Because depression is not the solution. Be peaceful and consider to your failure. And know that, you will defiantly get success in the future, and one failure can’t stop you to doing your work. 

(5)Never make expectation high:

When you are going to achieve something, never keep your expectation very high. Because, if you will do that, and also if you don’t get that success; you will be disappoint. But if you keep your expectation very low, and then, if you get a little high success; you will be gratitude. You will be very thankful. You feel happiness. 

That happiness and gratitude will encourage you to do more work in efficient way. 

(6)Understand Purpose vs goal:

The problem is that, you make your purpose wrong. When you want to achieve something, your purpose is to succeed to get something. When you don’t succeed to get that thing, you think that is your failure. Because your purpose was to get that thing. 

Actually your purpose is wrong. Your purpose should not be to get something.  

Your purpose should be like this, you want to achieve something, so do work, but whether you get success or not, that doesn’t matter. Matter is what you have developed in yourself. Success is not important; failure is not important; important is what you have become right now. 

When you try to get something, you do struggle many years. But when you succeed to get something, you feel happiness just for few days. And then every things goes no normal. So it’s like you did struggle a lot just for being happy for few moments. It’s a ridicules.

An example, you want to get a good job and you do really struggle to get that job. Finally, you succeed to get a job with super excellent salary packages. Now tell me how many days will you be happy?

One week; two week; or maybe one month…. Then every things will be normal. 

But one bad thing would be happen too. 

And that is, fear to lose your job. You will have fear for your whole life. You will do everything with fear. You will think what will you do, if you fire?

So do you think, is this really good life to live with fear?

Think where is enjoyment?

To live with fear? Or if you understand deeply that you are growing and you are better than before?

Of course enjoyment is in growing, not in living with fear. 

Idea is that, if you want to give examination of some subject. Go to the examination hall. But don’t give the exam to be successful. You should not care about whether you get success or fail in exam. Your purpose should be to learn something after that.

At this point, I would like to tell you difference between purpose and goal. Because some people think, both have same meaning, but actually it’s not. 

Let me take above example,

To give examination, that is goal. It doesn’t matter whether you succeed or fail.

And purpose is, what you will learn after that; what you will develop inside you. 

So don’t keep your purpose like that, you have to succeed in this examination. 

When you will understand that, failure and success are equal. And important is, to grow. Then your fear will be disappear completely. You thinking will be, “if everything be zero, I can built everything in seconds.”

So now think like that, “I have to do that, whether I get it o not, that is not my purpose; that is my goal. My purpose is that, whether I achieve goal or not; in both situation, I have to grow out of it. 

When you your thinking will be like this; and then, when you will do something and if you fail to achieve your goal, you will think “yes, I fail to achieve that, but my purpose have completed. And purpose was more important than goal.” 

What to do after failure

What to do when you fail, we’ll see in this section. 

(1) Cry

When you fail, you feel bad. Then, you think, why you are feeling bad; why are you sad; I should not be sad.

I am sad so that is problem. 

Do you really think feeling bad and being sad is problem?

No, that is not problem. Even if you cry, there is also no problem. You can cry when you fail. 

So never expect like that, “I should feel good; I should not feel bad when I fail.”

Understand, that is natural thing, and there is no harm to feel bad and cry.  When you will cry a lot, then you will feel much better. And you can move to next one. 

(2) Accept it and stop giving excuses:

Depression after failure is natural thing. But there is one more thing that really annoy us and give us more depression.

And that is, people remind our failure. Our family, friends and all other relatives teases us. They constantly taunt and say “you have failed; you should have not do that; I had already forbidden you to do that;”

I think sometimes, why they do that. And I would be like,

“Yes, I know, I have failed, you don’t need to tell me. I know I have made a mistake. Then why are you telling me about my mistake again and again. Why don’t you stop bother me?”

This is the first thing that really depress us. People give us more depression by reminding our failures and by making funs. I think, if they don’t do that, we will never be depress like that. So first we need to overcome that. How can we do that? Let’s know. 

Basically what happen when people do that? 

When they do that, we try to change the topics. We don’t want to discuss our failures. 

Sometimes, we try to avoid them. We don’t want to meet with those peoples. Because, every time when we see him, they only start their conversation on our failures. 

Also, another thing we do; we start to give unlimited excuses and explanation why failure happened. For example, if we fail in exam. We will say, the paper was tough that’s why we failed. Or paper was very easy and we did the preparation according to tough on; that was the reason we failed in exam. 

Don’t do that! And do this instead!

You have to ignore that; don’t depress; and face those peoples. Now if they say “you have failed”

Instead of giving excuses; say to him. “Yes I failed; I failed in the exam or in specific field, but I did not fail in the life.”

When you will accept that reality; when you will accept your failure that; it will be much easier to tell the other person. 

And in fact, that is not your failure of your whole life. So accept your failure and stop giving excuse to yourself and other peoples.

(3) Trick to stop people making fun of you:

When everybody make fun of you, frustration increase. And the mind become restless. And you need to know that restless mind will never give you good direction. So you need to have peaceful mind. And for this purpose, you need to ignore people. 

And one trick to stop people make fun of you is, start laughing at your failures. When you will do that, people will stop to laugh at you. 

It happens because people want some material for their enjoyment. And you and your failure have become now a material of their enjoyment. They really enjoy when you become worried. And when you will start laughing at your failure, their enjoyment material will gone. 

“When you will make fun of your failure, failure will run away.”

(4) Detach yourself:

Detach yourself and understand why he failed. Try to find out the reason. 

Remember that, the word “I” will never allow you to find the reason. And you will always think like that, “I shouldn’t have be fail. I don’t deserve the failure. My fate is bad.”

So first things is, you need to get rid of letter “I”.

And think like that “why did he fail?”

Instead of thinking “why did I fail?”

When you will detach yourself; that will be much easier for you to find the reason. 

(5) Learn from failure:

Understand that, every failure and bad happenings give you one good lesson. Only thing that you need is, to find the reason of failure and learn from it. 

For example, if a pickpocket steal your money from your side pocket, actually he give you a lesson that you should not keep your money in your side pocket. After that bad happening, you stop to keep your money to side pocket. Now you know how to save your money from stealing. 

But if are still keeping your money in side pocket, that means you didn’t learn the lesson. And in the future, this happening might be happen again. 

So if you want to development; if you want to improve yourself; then you need to understand deeply to failure. You need to know the root of failure and learn from it. 

(6) Check your goal again

Check your goal again and modify it if it’s necessary. Don’t stick with your old belief. You can do changing in your goal and purpose anytime. You can bring more clarity. You can find some easiest way to do something. 

Advantage of failure

Failure is good for success. It’s a gold medal. Here we will talk about some advantage of failure. Let’s check it one by one. 

(1)Experience:

You get experience. Because when you fail again and again, you learn a lot of things. You know how to handle the problems. 

(2)Knowledge

When you fail, you start to find the reason of your failure. You collect information from other sources. You try to find out how to do that in a right way. So failure gives you an opportunity to enrich your brain with more useful knowledge. 

(3)Growth and better version

If you are getting failure a lot that means you are growing. 

Failure gives you a better version. It’s same as computer software version. When a software company make a software first time, its version is like v1.0.

And after some times, the company see that there are some bugs out there, so he build another version v1.2. Then, company make more improvement in version v1.9; v2.0 and so on. 

You example is same like above. 

For example, when you don’t have failure you are v1.0, and after failure you are v1.2. And after another failure, you are v2.2 and so on until Infinity version. 

(4)Value

If getting success is easy, you never give value to success. And failure gives value. When you get one things by doing really hard work; when you do a lot of struggle; when you fail again and again, you know how much value this success have. 

(5)Redirection

Failure tells you where you shouldn’t be. It gives you a new direction. Also, you start to think some better and easiest way to achieve something. 

(6)Opportunity 

Failure is an opportunity to do work again and in better way. Because after failure you learn a lot of things; so you become stronger and confident. And now you can perform much better. Also, it teaches you to live newly with determinant.

(7)Depth

Depth of your personality is never possible without failure. 

(8)Failure gives you success

Only failure leads you to success. Because it teaches you how to get bigger success. How bigger success are you going to achieve, it depends on how many times will you fail.

If you start counting of failure and success of a successful person, you will know his failures are more than success. 

Conclusion

In this post, you learned how to overcome failure and what to do after failure. You have known failure is gold medal and it’s good to be fail. Because it leads you success. Without failing, success is not possible.

And also, you have read a couple of advantage of failure. Now you know, failure give you experience, knowledge and depth. It provides you an opportunity to come back stronger. It redirects you.

Here I am giving you another article link, you can check that out too. It’s about why I do not achieve success in spite of hard work?

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