Have you tired of trying to be positive? Now stop doing that
and do this instead. You will see a dramatically change in your life. Also, your
way of thinking will get a new direction for your successful life.
In this article, first you will find some reasons why you
should stop trying to be positive. Then, you will know what should you do, and
what you will get advantage by doing this. You will know how you will achieve
your goal and get success. Your way of
thinking will change. You will see how this changing will bring good happenings
in your life.
Let’s get into it:
Why we are trying to be positive?
We’ll start our discussion with this question, why are you
trying to be positive? What are those reasons that we want to be positive? Let
me tell you this one by one:
(1)For Law of Attraction:
Law of attraction is the number one reason that tells us to
trying for positivity.
We have read that positive energy attract positive happenings
and negative energy attracts negative happenings. What will happens, it depends
on our thinking. If we think positive, positive things will happen. And if we
think negative, negative things will happen. This universe reply us based on
our thinking. And that is law of attraction.
So in order to achieve good things or fulfill our desires, we
need to be stay positive. So that law of attraction will fulfill of our
desires. Otherwise, it won’t happen.
That was our first thought, that we are trying to be
positive.
(2)Positivity leads you to success
We have heard from many peoples that positivity leads
success. If we want to achieve something, or we want to get success, only thing
we need to do is to be positive. And that is the biggest reason that enforce us
to try to be positive.
(3)For Solution of depression:
When we feel difficulty in our goal; when we feel our success
is very far away; or when we suspect about our success, we get depressed. We
think we are unable to get success.
In that situation, we try to make ourselves positive. We
think positivity is the solution to get rid of depression.
What are we doing for being positive currently?
Let’s see what we do for staying positive.
(1)Search online
We search online and read some articles about positivity. We
always try to find some better solution that keeps us positive. And then, we
try to apply those tips and tricks on ourselves.
(2)Motivational lectures:
We watch motivational lectures.
(3)Get around with positive peoples
We go and try to spend sometimes with positive peoples. We
escape from negative peoples.
Tired of trying to be positive?
You must be tired of trying to be positive. Let’s what
problems are you facing.
Problems that we face when we try to be positive
We are trying our best to be positive but we are having so
difficult time for doing that. We have tired now.
We have read so many tips and tricks about staying positive.
But we are still unable to apply. All tricks have failed. Motivational lectures
keep us motivated just for few hour. We have few positive people around us, but
we have so much negative peoples around us. When we try to do something,
negative thought comes in our mind. We feel fear to failure.
Those negative peoples, tragedies, problem and other things restricts
you to stay positive.
So you ask me, how we can stay positive with a lot of
problems. What is the solution to be positive?
Good question!
But first, let me tell you one thing. All things that you
have read in above section, is totally garbage; Reasons about why you are
trying to be positive; solution what are you doing currently; all is crap.
So stop doing that!!
And don’t try to be positive! Because you don’t need to be
positive anymore.
Why all those things are Crap! (Reasons why should you stop to try to be positive)
Let me tell you why all those things are garbage and why you
don’t need to try to be positive. I am giving you some reasons one by one, so
read them carefully. And then, in next section, we’ll discuss what the right
solution is; and what you need to do instead.
(1)Truth about Law of attraction:
People try to stay positive so that law of attraction can
work. But in fact, law of attraction is scrap.
How? Let me tell you.
So basically what happens in law of attraction?
In law of attraction, you send some positive energy to
universe and do imagination. You imagine, you have your desired thing and you try
to feel happy by having that one. So you have taught that you need to do that
exercise every day for at least 10 minutes. So you try to do that.
But I would say that doesn’t work. That is my experience.
I am not saying that law of attraction doesn’t work. I mean, it
works naturally. But you can’t fulfill your desire by learning law of
attraction; you can’t force you.
If you want to get something in your life, you will start to
apply law of attraction. But you will never be able to get that thing. Because,
when you say your brain to imagine something, that imagination is not that
powerful.
But if you have some desire, and you don’t do anything. And
without thinking, you do imagine in any time. And that imagination is coming naturally
in your mind. You are not forcing your brain to imagine that. Then, you become
successful to get your goal or desire.
It happened because your desire was in your unconscious mind.
And unconscious mind is more powerful than conscious mind.
So now there is no reason left to try to stay positive if you
are thinking about law of attraction. Because, law of attraction doesn’t work
in that way.
(2) Positivity never lead you to success:
People think that positive leads the success. But actually
it’s wrong. Positivity never lead you success.
If you want to reach at some place. But you start to go to opposite
or wrong direction. And you are very positive that you will reach there.
So think about it what will happen? Will you able to reach at
your destination?
No never, you never be able to reach there.
Another example, if you don’t know how to drive; you don’t
know about brake, clutch and other things. And you start to drive car by
pressing race paddle. Now from everywhere, your car is hitting by something or
somewhere. Other cars are hitting you.
Now, you still want to stay positive and you ask me, “Please
tell me how I can stay positive; I started to feel negative; I need positivity;
please help me to stay me positive.”
What the hell are you doing here? You are hitting from everywhere
and you are still looking for positivity. How ridiculous situation that is!
Do you really think that will be helpful for you, if I motivate
you; and I will get success you to keep positive and optimistic. I say to you
“be positive, you can do it, keep going”
No, not really! It’s not going to help you. Moreover, in that
situation, being positive is dangerous for you. You can read more about
dangerous of positivity in this article by clicking here.
(3)Neglecting the bitter truth:
Sometimes, you neglect the bitter truth by being positivity. You
are afraid to face the problem; you don’t want to see the negative side of world.
You do that because the reality might depress you.
Maybe, you want to become a pilot but your eyesight is weak.
Maybe, you are not that handsome, but you don’t want accept that reality. But,
what can we do!
And obviously being positive is not going to help you in that
situation too. You have to have courage to accept those bitter truth.
(4)Happiness is temporarily:
If you listen some motivational lectures, or if you want to
go to some motivational seminars for getting some positivity energy in yourself,
this energy is for short time of period.
In the session, you really enjoy everything and become very
optimistic, but next day, you become in your previous negative condition.
So getting happiness and being positive in that way, is
temporarily.
(5)More depression:
Sometimes, you do really hard to be positive; you try to
learn how to be positive. But when you fail to be positive, you get really
depress. So try to be positive and become fail over and over again cause more
depression for you. Because staying positive for long time is very difficult
task.
(6)Fear of failure:
When you want to achieve something, you try to be positive. And
in reality, when you do that, you; you have fear of failure. The more you will
try to be positive, the more fear of failure will come in your mind.
And that happen naturally, because only when you have doubt
about your success, then you will try to be positive.
But if you are 100% sure about your success, then, you don’t
need to try to be positive in that case.
So that means, try to be positive increase the fear of
failure.
(7)Listening positive only, won’t give you any advantage:
People says, you should only meet with positive peoples and
you should escape from negative peoples. But that’s not going to give you any
advantage.
If you listen to only positive people, it’s possible that he
is wrong. And also, thought of negative people might be true. Because when negative
people say something negative, he says that based of his past experience.
So that means, just listening to the positive peoples can
hide some reality from you.
(8)Rolling stone:
If you get success to stay positive finally by watching
motivational lectures, reading positive affirmations, and other things, but you
still can be influenced by any negativity.
For example, if you are very positive and you are trying your
best to achieve something. Then, some person comes and say to you, “hey, you
are not going to get success in this field, so do this instead,”
And you will stop and start to do other thing.
Then, you are again very positive. Now another person say to
you to do some other thing; And you stop again, and start to do other thing.
So you have become a rolling stone. And it might be possible,
you would stop and do nothing.
So that means, even if you are positive, you still can be
easily influenced by any negative person or negativity in any time.
Any reason, that I have mentioned above, might happen.
It simply mean, you don’t need to try to be positive in all
that typical ways. You have to stop to do that.
And what you have to actually do to succeed in your life? That
you will learn in next section.
Then Do what, if I stop trying to be positive?
I really surprise when I see people are doing this silly
thing and looking tips for positivity. Let me ask them a question?
What is your motive, being positive or getting success?
Getting success! Right?
So then, you don’t need to do care about whether you get
success from positivity or negativity.
My point is that, you should only focus on success, not on
positivity.
Let’s move on and learn how to get success in life and accomplish
your goal.
(1)Decide what you want to achieve
First of all, you need to think about what you want to
accomplish in your life.
(2)Explore
When you decide that, don’t sit idle like other positive
people who does nothing except positivity.
It’s time to explore something. It’s time to have final
decision that you should work on that or not. So you need to collect the more
information about your decision. You need to find the reality.
(3)Find the reality:
So for this purpose, you need to listen both negative and
positive peoples. If somebody says you some positive, ask him why I should do
that; what’s the reason. If somebody says you some negative, ask him about his
past experience; ask him why I should not do that; what will happen if I will
do that.
You can learn more about that in this article. Positive thinking is habit of unsuccessful persons
You need to know the reality or truth. So you are doing this
just for collecting useful information. And then, based on the reality, you
have to take final decision.
When you have done, now set this goal in your first priority.
(4)Know about your competition and other things:
Now, it’s time to do some more work. Start collecting more
information; as an example, if your goal is business in some specific field, try
to find out how much competition is there; who might be your audience; what is
current situation; how much it will take time to establish the business; how
you can compete to your competitor; a
lot of other things like that.
(5)Create strategies:
When, you will collect all these information, it will be much
easier for you to go further. Because now everything will be clearer in your
mind. You will know what problems will come and how you can handle them.
Now it’s time to create strategies.
Create a rough path how you can reach there; what is right
direction; how you can achieve your goal in specific time; what are steps;
Where to and how to get started; How much is initial cost; what things are
available for you; etc.
What will happens when you will do all above things?
let's see what advantage you will get when you will all above things.
(1)Clarity:
The most important thing and advantage that you will get, is
clarity. You will have clear vision when you will know about base situation and
create strategies.
The benefit of clarity is, no energy (positive and negative)
can be influenced in your brain now. Now if somebody will say something
negative and say to stop that, you are not going to be stop. Because you have
clarity; you have already collected all information; you have set your goal;
you have create strategies and path; you are 100% sure that you will achieve
your goal. You know how to face any problems.
So you never be negative in that situation.
If somebody says something positive, that is also not going
to effect on your brain. You are not going to be more optimistic or happier. You
will stay normal. And that is a very good thing.
(2)Believe:
When there is clarity, belief automatically comes. And you
become more confident. You never become confused about anything. You don’t
afraid with any problems. And problem will become like an adventure. And
adventure is very interesting thing. Everybody love adventure and enjoy while
solving the problems.
(3)Positivity:
Belief create strong positivity. And that positivity is good.
Because that positivity is created based on reality, truth, belief and clarity.
That is the right way to be positive.
(4)Law of attraction:
Now in that situation, you can say law of attraction works. Because
you are sending strong positive energy to universe. You can feel your success.
Conclusion:
Clarity is more important rather than passivity. And clarity
comes by creating strategies.
Keep your motive for getting success; have clarity and take
right action in right way, positivity will automatically come. And you don’t
need to do tiring work about being positive.
Finally you will achieve you goal.
Also, I recommend you to read this related article, how to be successful if you are lazy. This will be very helpful for you and you will find
a lot of new awesome things.
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